A few months ago I delivered a lesson on being “All In.” I was able to connect the spiritual truths of the decision to real-life issues. The story was about Abraham and Isaac. I felt inspired and some of the women said they were too. It was an on-time message, and I wanted to get right to work on being all-in to certain relationships, business ideas, and to this new beautiful life full of hope! Right.
A few days passed and I found myself struggling still, I had the knowledge, but something was stopping me from taking that step to be “all in” to… well… anything. Don’t get me wrong, I complete tasks and follow through on commitments to projects and people. Sure, I have all of these business ideas floating around in my mind on the regular. I have these blog prompts, and Bible study ideas for publishing. I have these great workout plans and apps. I have this renewed self confidence and positive body image. I have a supportive circle. But with all those things I keep hitting this wall.
You see, today, I realized (probably not for the first time) that in order for me to be all in to ANYTHING. I have to let go of some things.
All in to a new career path? LET GO of the old job and career’s politics, regrets, mistakes, and hurts. KEEP the experience and lessons. But for the love of all things good. LET. IT. GO. Let go of you preconceived notions.
All in to a fresh business idea? LET GO of the ones you didn’t follow through on or that didn’t work out. IF they were meant to be they’ll come back around. LET GO of the negativity from family, friends, or colleagues that weren’t super supportive or optimistic.
All in to a relationship? LET GO. LET GO of the hurts!! Let go of all the other ideas that scarred you. Let Go of your fear of commitment. Let go of needing all these miraculous signs pointing you in the right direction. My experience with signs and confirmation on things: you get a few, but after a while God or the universe says “They aren’t listening anyways.” Let go of the relationships you no longer have. They are causing WAYYYY more damage then good. Sure, be wise; not bitter. Be hopeful. Not unrealistic.
All in to the “New You” or a new habit? LET GO of the mistakes and choices. Yes, some of the consequences may still be lurking around, but don’t let them bring you back. Just because you were an alcoholic, drug addict, liar, cheat, cry baby, worrier, jealous, scared, shy, overeater, you name it, does not mean you have to keep making that choice! Let those old habits and coping mechanisms go! Do not let them make you say “oh well.” Maybe they can help you say “not again” instead?
All in to the present moment? God, I can’t even count the hours, that I have used my mental space and time to replay moments from the past or daydreaming about some far off future (after all my success from persistent, hard-work of course), all of that time spent in a whole other time zone, missing out on today. LET GO! It may sound cliché, but while you are stuck back there or your eyes are fixed on years from now, you are definitely missing today’s blessing and opportunity! And today’s blessing and opportunity may even give you some healing and clarity on the past. And a new hope for the future.
It’s like there’s this internal and persistent need to hold onto failures, disappointments, hurts, “what-if’s”, and immaturely accepted dreams. Like I have to feel guilty or bad for things not working out or I have to hold on to my hurts – as if that means someone, someday, might apologize. Listen, we all have our burdens -mine just happens to be this small, slightly neurotic hiccup. But it has caused LOTS of damage, and at the expense of an innumerable amount of time and quite possibly some missed opportunities. At the least it has caused a whole bunch of RBF.
So, let’s let go together? Sound good? Here are some quotes on letting go, and remember, letting go is making room for the good stuff. And I truly, truly believe there is a ton of good stuff coming.
You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.”
― C. JoyBell C.
“If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve made, if they don’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go.”
― Steve Maraboli,
Your old self has died, and your new life is kept with Christ in God. — Colossians 3:3
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
― Ann Landers
“The greatest opportunity in the world is found here today… We already know what yesterday has got for us. It’s already gone. Tomorrow, too far away. What about right now!” – Ray Lewis
Last night took an L, but tonight I bounce back – Big Sean
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