When you love and care for others it is inevitable that at some point you will feel loss, rejection, disappointment, hurt, or pain. It is the human condition. That's the risk one takes when they let people in or put themselves out there. Why else do so many swear off love, keep people at a distance, or avoid getting involved in community or fellowship? They've been hurt.
The shape of my face, curve of my hips, size of my waist, or the length and color of my hair are not to be treated as if they are traits meant to be aesthetically pleasing to anyone, but my husband, nor are they meant to meet cultural standards.